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by Charlotte on 2004 Dec 22 - 20:37 | reply to this comment
For Once We Agree
For once we completely agree, Dee Marie. So long as precautions are taken I think it's a good idea to explore and find out what it is they want in a sexual partner. I was fortunate to be able to sow some wild oats before I got married and I'm glad I have that in my past to remember and look back on. There were great experiences, mundane experiences and a few lousy ones, but they all gave me valuable experience and knowledge.


by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 23 - 01:24 | reply to this comment
my thoughts
I fully understand where you are coming from, and, up to a certain point, I can agree with you.

But I also see things from the other end of the spectrum. I am in my 30s, and am still a virgin. Not from lack of opportunities (oh, there've been LOTS of those), but from a conscious decision to save myself for that special someone. It is religious in part, but more personal. I simply wish to be able to say to whoever it is going to be: I loved you when I didn't even know you; loved you so much that I waited all my life for you. Now we can discover what we want together, and can learn about our own personal intimacy without a past.

I've been lied to so many times that I just prefer to wait.

But I can understand what you've said, and why. And, in response to Charlotte, yes, there is a great deal that can happen before that final act. And I wouldn't mind a chance to explore it. Preferably with someone who won't lie to me.


by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 23 - 07:30 | reply to this comment
Anything but