Time to Kiss a Frog
When You’re Desperate, It’s Time to Get Picky
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The Relationships Pillars - The Status
The Relationships Pillars - Wealth
The Relationships Pillars - Looks
All Rejections Are Not Created Equal
10susanawalsh September 3, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Hamby, that is very succinct and on target. It is important that people are realistic about their own potential mating value. I've heard it said that in terms of physical appearance, 10s date 10s and 4s date 4s. That makes me cringe a bit, because I want people to look deeper when evaluating a potential mate, but I understand that it makes sense. A man who is a good provider can probably win a woman much better looking than himself, if his status is high enough. But he'll have to be on hyperjealousy alert, knowing that she can attract much better looking males than himself. Because, as you say, men like young (fertile) and pretty, it's rare to see a high status or very good-looking male with a less attractive woman.
However, speaking only for myself, if I wanted a child very badly, I'd sooner have one on my own than marry a guy I feel “meh” about. If you settle for a relationship without a spark, it doesn't take long before you can't stand the sound of your partner's breathing, if you know what I mean. I think a lot of women do settle, long before the reach that age of diminishing returns.
11hambydammit September 3, 2009 at 12:45 pm
I think it's pretty awesome that we live in one of the only times in human history where it is darn feasible for women to be single parents. It's taken a lot of pressure off of women to settle, and in theory, women ought to get better relationships because they don't have to find a man to help raise the kids.
When You’re Desperate, It’s Time to Get Picky
True Cads
The Relationships Pillars - The Status
The Relationships Pillars - Wealth
The Relationships Pillars - Looks
All Rejections Are Not Created Equal
10susanawalsh September 3, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Hamby, that is very succinct and on target. It is important that people are realistic about their own potential mating value. I've heard it said that in terms of physical appearance, 10s date 10s and 4s date 4s. That makes me cringe a bit, because I want people to look deeper when evaluating a potential mate, but I understand that it makes sense. A man who is a good provider can probably win a woman much better looking than himself, if his status is high enough. But he'll have to be on hyperjealousy alert, knowing that she can attract much better looking males than himself. Because, as you say, men like young (fertile) and pretty, it's rare to see a high status or very good-looking male with a less attractive woman.
However, speaking only for myself, if I wanted a child very badly, I'd sooner have one on my own than marry a guy I feel “meh” about. If you settle for a relationship without a spark, it doesn't take long before you can't stand the sound of your partner's breathing, if you know what I mean. I think a lot of women do settle, long before the reach that age of diminishing returns.
11hambydammit September 3, 2009 at 12:45 pm
I think it's pretty awesome that we live in one of the only times in human history where it is darn feasible for women to be single parents. It's taken a lot of pressure off of women to settle, and in theory, women ought to get better relationships because they don't have to find a man to help raise the kids.