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102filrabat January 2, 2011 at 12:14 am
BTW, I can also say “you can’t force a guy to lust after girls he doesn’t find even marginally attractive. And you force young girls to be turned off by confidence, money, social suaveness, swagger, and “alpha” traits” – foir both genders, at the expense of the boring but important traits that make up a truly sustainable relationship.

For the human species as a whole, it’s so deeply rooted in our DNA and/or neural architecture that we can’t come even close to eliminating this disconnect between our biology and our technology-oriented physical environment. We can minimize or maximize these tendencies in people with heterosexual urges of normal strength for that age though – chiefly through changing the culture and (for those who care to call it this) mass propaganda. We have a chance with young people whose sex drives are considerably weaker than the norm, yes. BUT, as I said, we can’t come even close to eliminating this problem for the youth / young adult population as a whole. All we can do is hope that we simply evolve out of this eventually (but that’ll take at least 100 generations, if it can be accomplished at all).

103filrabat January 2, 2011 at 12:22 am
BTW, I don’t think I contradicted myself in the last two posts. My point was that even though we can’t eliminate our “choosers” (i.e. the bundle of ideas in our brains that cause us to involuntarily be initially and superficially attracted to someone) – we CAN question how reliable our “choosers” are. But only rarely do we ever do so, at least not until we’re in our late 20s at the youngest. Therefore, we need to change the culture so that it encourages (even demands) skepticism about our “choosers”, even as we can’t eliminate our urges.

104terre January 2, 2011 at 7:11 am
Jess, you can’t just name your sources when you make a claim that “[...] fertility does steadily drop off in a straight line from 18 to 50. The line is gentle though.” You have to link to them, or at least name the studies. 50-year-old women are nigh infertile.

105Höllenhund January 2, 2011 at 7:28 am
“Women reach their sexual peak at 40 but mens is at 18.”

ROFL/LMAO! Do I even need to point out the rather obvious evidence to the contrary?

106Jess January 2, 2011 at 9:44 pm
Try the ‘baby centre’, nhs websites, or type in ‘infertility and age’ into your search engine.
The baby centre has a graph showing infertility and fertility plotted against age on the same graph.