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Is she into me?

40J August 9, 2012 at 6:20 pm
I am not talking about being able to make a great Swiss Meringue Buttercream.

Can you do that? Can you add chocolate? If so, I love you.

41Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 6:23 pm
@Just a thought

At the risk of sounding stupid, are you supposed to not bitch to your partner about your problems? Are you supposed to try and seem happy always? Are you saying that there is a middle line between always being happy and being a terrible bitch?

I have learned through trial and error that works best is to let my husband vent whenever he needs to vent. When I do that and support him – it is always the other person’s fault – he feels the need to bitch less. I just listen and sympathize. Since I got good at this I find that he is equally generous with me. It’s really just as corny as the golden rule in action.

I would not pretend to be happy when you are not. I tend to be a cheerful, perky type and when I’m feeling blue my family finds it disconcerting. Too bad. I don’t inflict my mood on anyone – I may want some time alone, or just to listen rather than be a good conversationalist. I think it’s important to be genuine in a relationship, though cultivating a positive attitude is going to make you more attractive.

42Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 6:27 pm
@Hope

t’s a great follow-up to the emotional escalation post.

I should have dedicated this post to Mike C. He felt the loss of the post with real examples of emo escalation, and said that he likes posts giving women advice on how to be more relationship worthy. I had him in mind when I wrote it.

About the shared interests: so many young guys play video games nowadays that I think it’s worthwhile for girls to look into it.

I agree!

“John Seely Brown: I would rather hire a high-level World of Warcraft player than an MBA from Harvard.”

http://bigthink.com/ideas/45592

43Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 6:31 pm
And, this was a very socially acceptable way for a girl to satisfy a man’s basic and primal needs and no one would call her a whore for doing so.