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The perspective on the hookup culture and its problems in this blog are strongly linked to the fact that men and women have different evolutionary agendas and that they are genetically wired to seek different things with regards to sex and commitment and to expereince hookups differently. This blog also holds the view that women are attracted to alpha males who can “lead” them in relationships and be rather dominant in the relationship. I wonder how after changing your mind about hookup culture you see these things diffrently and how to reconsile them with feminism?

Personally I started out with an almost gender neutral blank slate view of attraction as that was what I was thought in school and by society. HOwever, It has been my expereince that what is said by pickup artists, the manosphere and evoloutinary psychology about gender relations are true. WOmen are attracted to classic masculinity when I show it and unconciously or conciously punish me when I don`t lead in relationships etc. etc.

8YOHAMI September 20, 2011 at 3:55 pm
If she finds the right man, but puts him in her current frame… if she takes the fines wine and fills her broken jar with it… its going to be depleted anyway. As long as she is looking for reassurance and taking value and filling whats broken, its going to get depleted. The guy might try to fill her once and again until he is depleted as well, then they can reach that divine state know as a miserable relationship. Long term. Yay.
YOHAMI´s last [type] ..You can’t go into war / hunt / monster killing / hard competition with tears in your eyes. Well, you can, and get defeated.

9YOHAMI September 20, 2011 at 3:56 pm
*finest wine
YOHAMI´s last [type] ..You can’t go into war / hunt / monster killing / hard competition with tears in your eyes. Well, you can, and get defeated.

10Susan Walsh September 20, 2011 at 4:01 pm
Esca,
I should have guessed you’d get that in two seconds. You’re our biggest film buff.

11Isabel September 20, 2011 at 4:09 pm
Blah! Blah! Blah!

Insightful…

Good on her imo. It’s not the kind of message that goes down well in her field and I don’t doubt that she’ll be strawman-ed to death with sound bites like internalised misogyny and socio-cultural constructions . Hmm, no. It’s called not debasing yourself for a tosser. I don’t think what you believe is at odds with feminism either, really. Maybe in the mind of the most fundamentalist sex-positive but a woman doing what’s best for her emotional health isn’t self-hating. *shrug*