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• 23 Isabel October 22, 2011 at 2:11 pm

If she had a history of flaking (and by extension disrespecting you), what made you think this time would be any different? Screen for character and keep your trump card close to home until you can safely establish that she isn’t a slave to her ego or vagina if you still want to go the LTR route. If not, well, then it’s your prerogative.

If a man displays any sort of anger, discontent, or stress (regardless of the situation), he’s done.

If a man disagrees with a woman, he’s done.

If a man is less than completely independent. he’s done.

Complete and utter bollocks. And the worst thing is that you know it.

• 24 Kari Hurtta October 22, 2011 at 2:12 pm

Susan Walsh wrote:

the Dark Triad traits: narcissism, thrill-seeking and deceitfulness.

Should that “Dark Triad traits” be link ?

Source looks strange:

the <a href:= http:= http://www.independent.co.uk= news= science= why-women-really-do-love-selfobsessed-psychopaths-850007.html=>Dark Triad traits</a>: narcissism,

Perhaps: Dark Triad traits

• 25 Byron October 22, 2011 at 2:19 pm

Isabel,

Complete and utter bollocks. And the worst thing is that you know it.

Can you expand on this a little? You may for all I know be right but I really don’t have a clue what you’re saying.

• 26 PBateman October 22, 2011 at 2:20 pm

Actually having said the above. If a guy really likes a girl enough and she seems good and not some game-playing, attention-whore, he might just wait until date four or five. Three-date rule is so universal now it seems like it’s some kind of law. If I truly liked a girl, I’d probably hold out…but I don’t know this yet because the ones I’ve ran into won’t do this. If I don’t like the girl that much, or I can tell she’s a game-player or is trying to make up for past mistakes (she’s a used hag with plenty of issues), I’ll just stop seeing her after the third date. Maybe this is something girls should keep in mind if they truly want something serious with a guy who actually likes them.

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